At 50, I quit. My job, the stress, the polite meetings where I smiled through gritted teeth. I’d saved enough to breathe for a while. What I hadn’t planned was quitting another role: full-time financier to my adult kids.
I told them gently: “I’m done covering for you. Rent, car insurance, overdraft fees—you’ll have to figure it out.”
My daughter cried, then asked if we could still get coffee every week. My son… laughed. Laughed.
“Wait, are you having a midlife crisis?” I said no, just a self-respect revival.
His tone shifted fast, “You know I need help right now. You’re seriously abandoning me?”
I stood firm. He stormed out.
Three weeks later, I went to drop off a box of his old stuff at his place. He opened the door, his new girlfriend beside him, and just said, “Oh. It’s her. The useless one.”
I didn’t speak. Just set the box down, turned around, and left.
Now I sit on my porch each morning with coffee, I don’t rush. The silence used to ache. Now, it’s my reward.
I gave them everything. The moment I said “no,” I stopped being Mom and became a villain.
Still, I’d choose peace over performing motherhood-as-a-service again.
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