A woman and her boyfriend\u2019s mother recently had an argument. She took to Reddit to share the story and ask the Redditors for advice.<\/p>\n
Here\u2019s the full story:
\n\u201cI\u2019ve been dating my partner Nick for three years now approaching four.<\/p>\n
I was very friendly with his family before this incident.<\/p>\n
I believe we were very close because I was invited to spend the holidays with them and we exchanged birthday presents.<\/p>\n
Nick\u2019s family takes a vacation every year and this summer we went somewhere I\u2019ve been dying to see.<\/p>\n
I asked his mother, who organized the holiday if I could go and if I could cover my own expenses.<\/p>\n
I wasn\u2019t family yet, so I apologized, but this was a family trip, she explained.<\/p>\n
When I told Nick this, he replied that no one significant other had been invited, so I wasn\u2019t the only one left out.<\/p>\n
Although I was still angry, I forgot about it. Now that autumn has arrived, the temperature is dropping.<\/p>\n
I decided to commemorate the cold weather by making my family chili recipe for Nick\u2019s family.<\/p>\n
I made sure they had plenty of chilies to go home because Nick and his family loved it.<\/p>\n
Nick\u2019s mom asked if I could give her the recipe so she could cook it at work before she left.<\/p>\n
Sorry, but this is a family recipe that is kept under wraps.<\/p>\n
Have we thought of us as a family yet? she asked. I replied that according to you we are not. Then she said, \u201cOh, okay,\u201d and left.<\/p>\n
When everyone left, Nick accused me of being unkind. I told him he couldn\u2019t decide when we would be a family; it was his mother who first claimed I wasn\u2019t.<\/p>\n
He claimed I was petty and that it was a completely different circumstance.<\/p>\n
He then left and didn\u2019t speak to me for several days. I don\u2019t see how I\u2019m at fault here.<\/p>\n
His mother can refuse me something because we are not related, but if I comply with him, am I at fault? She gave a status report. I spoke to Nick\u2019s mother.<\/p>\n
After all, we\u2019ve been through it. When I heard her declare, \u201cI\u2019m not family,\u201d I expressed how hurt I was.<\/p>\n
The fact that she only considered me family when she needed something from me only made my feelings worse.<\/p>\n
His mother expressed regret, stating that she never intended for it to appear that way. She tried to imply that the trip was a formal welcome gift or wedding reward.<\/p>\n
Along with his apology, Nick said he had no idea what his mother had told me.<\/p>\n
He mistook her statement that I couldn\u2019t attend because she refused that I wasn\u2019t family.<\/p>\n
He recognized that the rational half of his brain was overwhelmed by seeing his mother sad, so he didn\u2019t stop thinking and immediately reacted angrily.<\/p>\n
Nick and his mother seem wary around me, even though we\u2019ve talked about it; I\u2019m not sure it\u2019s better than being given the cold shoulder though.<\/p>\n
She got a lot of encouragement and support from the Reddit community.<\/p>\n
\u201cIt\u2019s unimaginable to find out after four years of dating that they don\u2019t consider you family.\u201d<\/p>\n
After three months of our dating, my husband\u2019s mother invited me into their family for the first time!<\/p>\n
I would reconsider my status not only in the eyes of his family but also in his own if he treated me like this even during the years of our relationship and my husband was fine.<\/p>\n
How they see you is more important than a meal or a trip.\u201d<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"
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