Having our family members watch our kids while we are at work is a huge benefit, especially if they come at no cost to us.

However, is it reasonable to demand this aid from our parents after all the fights we experienced with them?A fresh message From: Rachel Subject: After cutting off all communication with me, my daughter came to ask me to watch her children. Since she turned 18, my daughter Amy has shown no interest in me.

She kept me out of her life’s milestones, such as her engagement and graduation. As a result, we seldom ever communicate. She recently contacted me and now has two boys.

We talked after I was taken aback. After a while, Amy began to complain about how difficult it was to raise her children on her own. She urged me to be a good grandma and watch them on Saturdays.

I informed her that I was unable to care for her children at this time because she had severed our relationship a long time ago. She blocked me everywhere and labeled me selfish. After everything that transpired between us, was I incorrect to decline to assist my daughter with the children? I would value your opinions and your practical guidance.

We appreciate you contacting us and expressing your worries on your daughter’s circumstances. We recognize how difficult and upsetting this circumstance must be for you.

Be aware of your rights. Given how badly your daughter treated you, you are under no duty to assist her with her children. Setting limits and defending yourself against emotional abuse are rights that you have. By refusing her irrational request, you are not being selfish. Look for the causes.

Try to figure out why your daughter shut you off from her life and rejected you. Perhaps she was insecure about something in your relationship. Perhaps she had personal issues or was influenced by someone else. Try to understand her and consider things from her point of view.