I’ve been married to my husband Paul for 15 years. I have an 18-year-old son, Jude, from a previous relationship, and Paul has a teenage son from his first marriage.

Jude will start college this year, but my husband Paul refuses to pay his tuition. Instead, he wants to spend money on a car for his son’s 16th birthday.

I said that spoiling his own son with a car at 16 isn’t that necessary but my son’s education is crucial. I then reminded his that my son has the same rights as his son.

Paul smirked and then declared, “Don’t forget that your son’s father is a lazy man who never worked a day in his life.”
He then added, “don’t expect me to deprive my own son of nice gifts just because your son’s dad won’t step up and take his duties as a father seriously.”

To my disappointment, he declared “Even though I love him, Jude is no longer my responsibility now that he is 18”

I am crushed by my husband’s behavior, especially since he’s always been a good father figure for my son.
How should I handle this situation?