I Want to Leave My Husband After Discovering Suspicious Behavior

Infi_de_lity shatters the trust and stability of a relationship grounded in commitment and honesty, often leaving lasting emotional scars. Claire, our reader, was left heartbroken when she uncovered her husband’s af_fair with their nanny. Feeling betrayed by both people she had relied on, she reached out in an open letter, seeking advice and clarity as she navigated this difficult and painful turning point in her life.

Here’s what she shared:

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I’m a 29YO woman, and I’ve been married to my husband, who is 40, for 2 years. We have a 1YO son, and for nearly a year, we’ve had a babysitter, Lucia (20F) who was hired through an agency. She has been fantastic with our son-always energetic, patient, and very responsible. Lucia blended into our family so seamlessly that it almost felt like she belonged with us. My son really adores her.

However, a few months ago, I began to sense something unusual between Lucia and my husband. They were frequently texting each other, and it wasn’t just about our son or their schedule; it included jokes and random conversations. When I brought it up to my husband, he insisted it was merely casual chit-chat. I felt foolish for mentioning it, so I decided to let it go.

Then last week, I got home earlier than usual and noticed my husband and the nanny sitting very close. They quickly stood up, acting awkwardly. That night, I confronted my husband, and he admitted to “seeing” her for a while. But it gets worse: when I called the agency to report her, they told me that my husband had already called earlier that day.
It turns out he fabricated a story about her being “unreliable” and had her dismissed from the agency! He claims he did it to “protect us” because things were becoming complicated, but I genuinely believe he’s just trying to hide his own mistakes.
Now, I’m considering ending our relationship. I feel utterly betrayed by the two people I trusted with my son.
However, he insists that I’m overreacting and says I’d be “throwing away our family” if I left him over this “misunderstanding.”
I’m at a loss about what to do next. Is it really as serious as I think it is, or am I just being dramatic?

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